Criticism: How To Take it and How to Leave it

Here we go!  You’re stepping out into the world!  You put your work, your vision, or your dream on display.  You hold out your hand with an offer that is dear to your heart and you are

REJECTED.

Actually, you are only met with mild criticism or constructive feedback but it feels like

REJECTION.

Notice how I capitalize, bold and italicize – 

REJECTION.

Because that’s how it feels, right?  It feels big and bold and written differently than any other words in your story.

But it’s not!  It’s just words.

I am amazed by the legendary theatre artist Joseph Chaikin.  He managed to leave some serious truth bombs behind in his life.  I love his three steps to dealing with criticism which, let’s face it, is a constant reality for cutting edge theatre artists more than most.  But it is a reality for us all.

“The first stage is to accept the criticism unconditionally, thereby leaving yourself open to full consideration of it.

The second stage is to regard the criticism skeptically and consider if it is in line with your direction.

The third stage is to completely dismiss it from consciousness, having already assimilated whatever is valid into your efforts.”

• The Presence of the Actor, Joseph Chaikin, p. 84

The key to surviving criticism is knowing your direction.  Knowing your WHY.  Yes, I have said it before.  Having a deep connection with your path means criticism can help you find your way if it is in line with your direction.  But if it is not then it is not necessary to keep it.

And one must never fear criticism.  Our journey here is to learn.  Our teachers may come in many appearances.  Some may be kind, some may be – let’s face it – A$$hats.  But knowing that we are here to learn requires feedback.  You must never value your ego more than your process or your progress. Your place in this world is not fixed.  You do not come to your journey to prove you are perfect.  You are here to approach your life’s interpretation of perfection.  And that requires teachers. 

But I have learned when to accept criticism and  when to stick up for my vision.  I can always be better at how I do what I do.  But WHAT I do?  That’s just me.  We must be brave and true and follow our path.

As you embrace 2019, I assume you have started thinking of your goals.  May your New Years Resolutions be full of passion for your vision of a better world and your place in it. 

Be bold.  Be strong. 

YOUR VOICE IS IMPORTANT.       

Happy New Year!